Heck we humans control each other in most facets of life too, whether that be rules and regulations (sometimes excessive), or parents bossing their children around (sometimes excessively), or in the work place where the boss tells the employee's how it is (sometimes rude excessive) - regardless of how bogus the rules seem establishing control and precedence upfront is a common practice to some degree.
What I’m getting at is we are all use to control, we can squiggle the opposite direction when it’s thrown our way but ultimately – as much as I’d like to not admit it – it makes enough sense given the encompassing factors of population and situations where we can be put into harm’s way. Even restrictions from ‘sexual immoral accusations’ have merit, where for the sake of the institution of marriage (where we learn loyalty humanely during birth existence) God, would establish control over us in the form of decreed infractions whether Christian virgins defile the marriage bed, a woman commits adultery the most logical way (dead love Christian spouse, remarry) or cheating for the ignorant allure factor of a better night all the way out to the penalties of man law.
If it be true that existence was created with purpose and with a forward fate arrow as part of the Creator’s agenda within his capability to manage, he would establish this form of control over us for the sake of conditioning and teaching as these restrictions hedge against the thought divides that create acceptance of bad practices, when we strive for trust in relationships as a primary goal. For viewership awareness I’ll include some bible verses for proper self discernment. Yes head covers we’re used to condition the state of control of the time, maybe even for a protective element righteous for the woman – I don’t really want to go into that thought, but no sexual immorality isn’t manifested differently with the ‘time and direction’ of the Spirit on its sternness with implications of judgement as a risk.
First off sexual sins are scaled differently like anything else, though all sins and sin at it’s root, are aspects of a total judgement review where elements of the infractions we commit are offset or increasingly convicted by the multitude of factors throughout the days of our lives one way or the other. Deliberate sinning is a penalty but we know ‘as passion rises we must commit to marriage’ according to the scripture, which acknowledges the passion rises for a reason – that the self-control elements may be beyond common ability to do it perfectly for percentages within our society.
1 Corinthians 5:1 ‘It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father’s wife.
And the sternness of the direction is to be noted as scripture states in
1 Corinthians 6:18 ‘Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body,’ which shows the bible counts extra degree’s in the judgement element.
Sex isn’t frowned upon ‘The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control’(1 Cor 7:3-5) but to be handled ‘like respectable adults are capable of doing in loving relationships.’
And I’ll end the passage reference rant with one passage reaffirming the severity to keep as a reminder on this topic all together; ‘For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not become partners with them;’ (Ephesians 5:5-7) so it’s protection against the worst riskful people. The riskful ones who want you to be penalized (according to bogus scripture rules, though it’s only implied) as they go with their meditation and everything else seems stupid otherwise; so the banter is expected and increased situational risk follows with ‘becoming partners with them’ where risk is increased as less forethought goes into the decision making process you usually would be naturally inclined to do, as you yearn for relationship affection leading into shared positions within society and they don’t embrace it to the same degree. Most of the time, offense increases ‘spiritual turmoil’ occurs from all the scenarios involved; so things work out okay for the most part but even the strict Ephesian content gives us the grasp on how judgement can penalize us more than we reckon should be the case, depending on where you are at in your life journey. It’s one thing to be like this or that, it’s another thing to be like that or this, etc etc etc.
I'm thankful during this stretch of existence to be a human with a will free to choose the decisions in front of me with the understanding and knowledge I have with the factors of consideration in each decision. I’m not always thankful of the scenario altogether, that we are attracted to each other yet people take offense one way or the other and that we can be penalized in all sorts of ways by the forms of acting control, where manipulation can occur very easily on this ‘spiritual’ subject matter.
Yea I know you may not be into religion, Christianity in particular - but if we're say 85X smarter than a dog (communication, sequenced logistical decision making with strategy and additional handling capability) and if reality dictated humans be distinguished above all other species, sparked by the Creator’s initial programing plan to allow things to evolve as they have, where we are ‘made in His image,’ then we can see linerage in this distinction between man and animals all the way out to man and God of reality and illusion with all conceived supernatural abilities in control of vision dream and physical touch.
Nobody likes being controlled if it takes away something you don't want to give up, so God lets us live and learn in all sorts of ways where we get to choose. That's pretty reasonable. Lots of people don't want to give up alcohol, but being drunk all the time is ruining their life. God lets us learn moderation or not get as far as we would otherwise desire if we could otherwise do as we would rather do in that scenario if you catch my drift in a rut or plateau plain I don’t know
The ironic thing is most people can't even humble themselves enough to say thanks through a simple prayer on a daily basis because they can find a million reasons through the comfort of each other why the notion of God having control over us seems bogus, therefore not including the requirements of God in their actions and way of life. Yes the disbelief stance creates difficulty in this embrace, but let me throw this at you..
We don't have all the answers, so all you got is faith in your belief. Faith is believing in the unknowns and it usually requires putting hope towards stuff. There is stuff better than sex, though sex shows God gives. You don't know that you're going to get hired for that job, but you have enough faith to go to the interview and still have hope you will have what it takes.
You don't know why God allows good stuff to happen to bad people and bad stuff to happen to good people, but you still have faith and hope the answers will come since we were created to have intellectual understanding, and if love is real then God wouldn't end our souls existence since God doesn't play by the rules of beginning and end since we can't explain the starting point of everything, Himself included.
So all I'm getting at is I'm not crazy for putting all this time towards learning more about God the creator, and Jesus the appointed boss who gets the control now to some degree (Satan rules) and in heaven fully. I'm also getting at the fact that your efforts may not be in vain if you seek to spiritually understand more of the 'whys' behind why things are as they are and who our kind yet stern God is (kinda like some bosses are) if the Christian total grasp proves the loudest and most undeniable starting point given your exposure. You could say Jesus follower, or believer, or maybe a missionary some day but not cling to the Christian connotation if you want; I’m a gentile believer in the spiritual wave of the coming apocalypse where hopefully zombies won’t manifest from DNA mutation! It’s extra strategy, but we are meant to grow.
Love is harsh sometimes, we all know tough love can be necessary. God teaches us that every single day through what we are allowed to be exposed to. Ultimately heaven becomes more exciting if we know the great state of protection we are in, with past memory organized correctly that will create more vibrant uniqueness in the ‘shadow of things to come’ element of God’s artistry. Face to face answers will eventually come (not all of them perhaps as the Father keeps a play going) – but in the meantime we put our faith towards the telling’s of the bible; the passed on perceived or revelatory tested information that allows us to conceive extra thought, things we naturally embrace to some degree as we want power or to learn it better. To gain in this regard, knowing the grading scale matters. Thus be more human than dog!